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How not to take things personally? | Frederik Imbo | TEDxMechelen 

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Frederik Imbo studied theatre at the Royal Conservatory of Ghent and has acted in lots of television series. He founded Imboorling and now has over 15 years' experience in stimulating and supporting people. With the aim of improving their communication skills Frederik gives presentations, workshops, training courses and personal coaching sessions to anyone prepared to make their two ears available.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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Chris Mosner
Chris Mosner پیش 16 دقیقه
Majestic and breathtaking. You are so right about being fortunate to live beneath dark skies. Millions around the globe are, sadly, cut off rom the universe in a very real way. This was your finest opening, Richard! That Sony does great things with video at night. Maybe you can now better capture a light painting session so we can see your timings and technique?
Shalini Jain
Shalini Jain پیش ساعت
Loved the last 20euros example
Deriv Trading Community
Deriv Trading Community پیش 3 ساعت
We need a Tedx Talks School 😊
Nets 4 Change
Nets 4 Change پیش 4 ساعت
As a performer, I too wondered why the audience would be quite when I would perform on stage. Like many people here are wondering the same question about this audience. One day I asked a seasoned performer if he knew why the audience wasn’t clapping or being more vocal... he told me that the when a performance is so good, the audience is captivated by the presentation that they don’t think to clap or show emotion. It all makes sense because at the end of every show we would get a standing ovation. Crazy how that works. And in the theater world being quite is good etiquette as well. You literally have to tell the audience they can clap and make noise.
Diegomolinams98
Diegomolinams98 پیش 5 ساعت
Epic ending
Claire Jones
Claire Jones پیش 7 ساعت
Yesterday someone asked me if I was insecure about my body and I lied to them and told them no I love my body. It definitely needs some work but I love it nonetheless because it is mine and mine only... I felt attacked by the mere question that I cried my eyes out until I fell asleep. Maybe the person was raising this seeing how I'm always so reserved and unconfident ... Or it is about me... The fact that it is hard to look at myself in the mirror, take pictures and post them, wear fashionable clothes like girls my age or even walk down the street without my arms crossed and head pointed at the ground... But you see, these are things you can't tell people... As a girl who grew up without a mother around... there are things that affect the way you view yourself... But this guy brings an interesting idea to my head. It is so simple but hardly ever practiced. I'm not in need of sympathy, I just wanted to share my piece of story and tell you to stay strong.
Zaria Lane
Zaria Lane پیش 16 ساعت
how handsome of a man. thanks for the talk.
Jade Dadiz
Jade Dadiz پیش 17 ساعت
Bars
Tara Henry
Tara Henry پیش 19 ساعت
XXXXX
Nicolas Shalaty
Nicolas Shalaty پیش 20 ساعت
Good stuff✌️
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Imagine that Productions
Imagine that Productions پیش 23 ساعت
Thank you
Bence Sárközi
Bence Sárközi پیش روز
People on the internet especially twitch, twitter, reddit should see this and take his advice. I am fcking tired of banning words on forums and see whining people on meme subreddits that they got offended by something that's not offensive in any way.
chaitanya velamala
chaitanya velamala پیش روز
I am just here to see the other side of the story
reganmcneilonacid
reganmcneilonacid پیش روز
this is some polyanna naive kind of wishy washy thiinking and quite harming. you can take this personally
Zakir Chowdhory
Zakir Chowdhory پیش روز
Just love it, thank you.
Immortal
Immortal پیش روز
What if he shits on the 20EUR - who wants it then?:)
M
M پیش روز
OMG. The ending was GOLD. A huge thank you Frederick for this much-needed pep talk.
Federico Tarroni
Federico Tarroni پیش روز
Hi Frederik, thanks very much!
Lelan Tanphuc
Lelan Tanphuc پیش روز
Yang milih allah like yg Mili dajal hirawkan 1:39.........m.
apoorva mahajan
apoorva mahajan پیش روز
Wow sir that was really really helpful❤️❤️
Brian Tanner
Brian Tanner پیش روز
I cried when he said "No matter what people say, you will always keep you value." Hit me like a ton of bricks.
Do Ngoc Quynh
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ecefw
ecefw پیش روز
I was really glad that i'd stumbled on this video and this was my first time that I watched ted talk that I really finished it. At the end of the video it was a very thought-provoking metephor. I even smiled at the end of the video while he said "You will always keep your value."
Devineee Visionary
Devineee Visionary پیش روز
This guy is a genius
erratic_calm
erratic_calm پیش روز
I needed this today. Thanks, Google.
Fuji Honjo
Fuji Honjo پیش 2 روز
In conclusion: $20 is $20
Jenifer Ryan
Jenifer Ryan پیش روز
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Jenifer Ryan
Jenifer Ryan پیش روز
Whatzapp
Jenifer Ryan
Jenifer Ryan پیش روز
All thanks to Janet foreign exchange for helping me to trade my $400 into Bitcoin and I was credited with the sum of $5400 after seven working days of my trade with her now I’m debt free I can settle my bills without even touching my paycheck I’m so happy with Bitcoin life is easy 😊
Amen Sister
Amen Sister پیش 2 روز
Wonderful public speaking and suberb ending! Will have to use that sometime!!!
Jenifer Ryan
Jenifer Ryan پیش روز
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Jenifer Ryan
Jenifer Ryan پیش روز
Whatzapp
Jenifer Ryan
Jenifer Ryan پیش روز
All thanks to Janet foreign exchange for helping me to trade my $400 into Bitcoin and I was credited with the sum of $5400 after seven working days of my trade with her now I’m debt free I can settle my bills without even touching my paycheck I’m so happy with Bitcoin life is easy 😊
Joseph Mills
Joseph Mills پیش 2 روز
9:54 my thoughts exactly
Jenifer Ryan
Jenifer Ryan پیش روز
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Jenifer Ryan
Jenifer Ryan پیش روز
Whatzapp ✅
Jenifer Ryan
Jenifer Ryan پیش روز
All thanks to Janet foreign exchange for helping me to trade my $400 into Bitcoin and I was credited with the sum of $5400 after seven working days of my trade with her now I’m debt free I can settle my bills without even touching my paycheck I’m so happy with Bitcoin life is easy 😊😊
logan swartz
logan swartz پیش 2 روز
i showed this to my girlfriend but she took it personally
Jenifer Ryan
Jenifer Ryan پیش روز
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Jenifer Ryan
Jenifer Ryan پیش روز
Whatzapp
Jenifer Ryan
Jenifer Ryan پیش روز
All thanks to Janet foreign exchange for helping me to trade my $400 into Bitcoin and I was credited with the sum of $5400 after seven working days of my trade with her now I’m debt free I can settle my bills without even touching my paycheck I’m so happy with Bitcoin life is easy 😊
Abiya Fellak
Abiya Fellak پیش 2 روز
We need this sooo much, because people are becoming soo rude, and not gentle
Abiya Fellak
Abiya Fellak پیش 2 روز
This must be one of the best videos of the year! Impressive, thx
ALWestcott
ALWestcott پیش 2 روز
“You will always keep your value”. Wow so powerful!
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greg boley پیش 2 روز
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Fidel Livino
Fidel Livino پیش 2 روز
This is what should be called motivational video. I loved it
Milly Thimaras
Milly Thimaras پیش 2 روز
Love this
mosomo17
mosomo17 پیش 2 روز
That ending..wow! "Wipes tear from eye"
thuy Pham
thuy Pham پیش 2 روز
Be honest, open-minded and comunicate is the key of almost social interface problems in some kind of society. (shouldnt generalize things however i am just trying to contrast by using my limited expericence ) :)
Míša Doležalová
Míša Doležalová پیش 2 روز
Awesome talk!
Enes Misini
Enes Misini پیش 2 روز
Kevin De Bruyne, you are not a referee but a Manchester city player
The Opinionated Pug
The Opinionated Pug پیش 2 روز
Beautiful words 💚
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george amaxopoulos پیش 2 روز
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birdieculture
birdieculture پیش 2 روز
I guess sometimes we take things personally becoz we have this justice mentality, yet we might not know the difference between "true justice" and "perceived justice". In the case of this referee example, he WAS doing the players a "favour" by making sure the game is played according to the rules, rules in which both sides agreed on. But those who want to win without playing by the rules get angry. They simply don't deserve his "favour", or even the right to play. These bad players have a "perceived justice" a.k.a. "u let me win = justice", yet we know "true justice" is when everyone play by the rules fairly and win. So, in conclusion: learn what "true justice" is, don't go and perceive your own version of what justice is, coz "true justice" is / should be appreciated by everyone, even when we are human and sometimes just don't do so.
Ed
Ed پیش 2 روز
Came here thinking it was Prince Harry talking about dealing with what people are saying about him and Megan.
Critter Tales
Critter Tales پیش 8 ساعت
I clicked thinking it was Owen Hunt from Grey's Anatomy in the thumbnail 👀
Mónica Salinas
Mónica Salinas پیش 2 روز
Thank you so much
D_ MonTequila
D_ MonTequila پیش 2 روز
Thank you
Jeannee Jean
Jeannee Jean پیش 2 روز
Trump is an orange 🤷🏽‍♀️💁🏽‍♀️
Mino Chou
Mino Chou پیش 2 روز
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Shy Guy Mercedes Benz
Shy Guy Mercedes Benz پیش 2 روز
I'm putting this comment here... for ME
gruenerfux
gruenerfux پیش 2 روز
How would you measure 50000 thoughts?
Sergio Renteria
Sergio Renteria پیش 2 روز
I do take things personally and it sucks man fr even I admit it it Destroys me from meeting new people, this vid explain it all thank you
rysiek085
rysiek085 پیش 2 روز
Am I the only one who doesn't love the ending? I thought it was quite a cheap shot tbh. Liked the rest though
Fe Dosumu
Fe Dosumu پیش 23 ساعت
how it's the best part
BLENDABLE
BLENDABLE پیش 3 روز
I came here to make sure this want the red headed doctor from grey's anatomy
Dee S. Olafsen
Dee S. Olafsen پیش 3 روز
Good talk. . .the ending was 👌
dynamiczero
dynamiczero پیش 3 روز
I remember once when I still played soccer as a teenager, I was talking with a teammate since we both were reserve players, and I said something funny that made him laugh. The referee saw that and came, sanctioning my friend because he thought he was laughing at him. Probably the opposite of the speaker in this video
Simi Ahluwalia
Simi Ahluwalia پیش 3 روز
fantastic!
Aryan Yuvraj
Aryan Yuvraj پیش 3 روز
Michael Jordan wants to know your location . and mind u sir you r on his list.
Simone Bosman- Zomer
Simone Bosman- Zomer پیش 3 روز
That's what I did. Taking it personally, then tell my boss I don't like that way. I did it 3 times but at the 3rd time I added that I would go look for another job. I was the first one to speak up ever and now at least she knows. I was unemployed for 3 months (2nd lockdown was also happening) and then I got a job interview in wich I exactly told what I like and don't like. They hired me. 💪. I hope this is, at 46, the beginning of more happiness and confidence. I happen to see this video after the interview so why did I do it the way I did? I did a MyersBriggs personality test and I learned that there are more like me. Knowing that helped me🙂
Silvio M
Silvio M پیش 3 روز
When you focus on the intention of the other person, you're basically showing empathy for the other person, right?
Ria Esf
Ria Esf پیش روز
you can show empathy towards others without necessarily allowing their behaviour to affect you.
isipisi
isipisi پیش 3 روز
thank you so much
Eko Onyi
Eko Onyi پیش 3 روز
Only 20e per match ? I dont believe it 🤣
Shan Howard
Shan Howard پیش 3 روز
My ego does not approve this message.
Captain Fruit
Captain Fruit پیش 3 روز
I was really really impressed... Thank you more than what I can explain. You talked warmly and pleasantly, and explained easily and simply. I imagine that your coin-two-strategies will help me a lot. You are the one of the most touching speechers in my life.
guzel dayz
guzel dayz پیش 3 روز
Well done.
Ярослав Немирович
Interestingly enough, I came to using this strat without even realizing it while working as technical support. I sometimes deal with people that are upset about recent changes or about the fact that something broke and they want to blame IT services as a whole and they tell it to me but I've realized - it's not about me. It wasn't me who broke their computer, so why should I feel bad about it? That allowed me to focus on fixing the issues and resulted in much better customer service. Thank you for putting this strategy into words, much appreciated
Gerard Ligonde
Gerard Ligonde پیش 3 روز
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Mmili Lo
Mmili Lo پیش 3 روز
Awww his speech was so cute!
FauneTV
FauneTV پیش 3 روز
place SPANISH translator please!!
Nothando Sithole
Nothando Sithole پیش 3 روز
Bienvenidos a Bankrupcy.
Nothando Sithole
Nothando Sithole پیش 3 روز
My B money grows once I plant’s H.E.R first tree. Not marijuana. THC. or Meth.
Ger Lo
Ger Lo پیش 3 روز
I needed this.
The Comment
The Comment پیش 3 روز
Stop trying to seek validation from people that don’t f wit you
AbdullaDoo
AbdullaDoo پیش 3 روز
Awesome. Greetings from Brazil
Lucyyy
Lucyyy پیش 4 روز
Learned more from this than my therapist.
Super Sai
Super Sai پیش 4 روز
Me and Micahel Jordan disliked this video.
John Henderson
John Henderson پیش 2 روز
Hahahahaha, good one.
Daniel Young
Daniel Young پیش 4 روز
Did anybody @ Michael Jordan yet?
Roby Fischer
Roby Fischer پیش 4 روز
Michael Jordan seeing that video :
Keilie Velasquez
Keilie Velasquez پیش 4 روز
Best Ted talk I’ve ever seen so far !
Roni Hossain
Roni Hossain پیش 4 روز
WoW..... Its great presentation sir🙏🙏😍😍
Cont Fazza 《Main》
Cont Fazza 《Main》 پیش 4 روز
Great Performance.
Siddhant Bista Chettri
Siddhant Bista Chettri پیش 4 روز
Never knew Kevin De bruyne gave ted talks
Arya Danih Lesmana
Arya Danih Lesmana پیش 4 روز
This is what I need right now, youtube algorithm is such a mystery
Abiya Fellak
Abiya Fellak پیش 2 روز
Me too 🙏
Jaeda Davis
Jaeda Davis پیش 4 روز
This was a great watch. I recommend.
Ridmi Perera
Ridmi Perera پیش 4 روز
what if they don't understand my feelings or care about my situation even if i didn't blame them ?
Harsh
Harsh پیش 4 روز
Dam lines after 16:15 took my ❤️
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo پیش 4 روز
Hi, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please spread the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with theirselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo
Erik Aston
Erik Aston پیش 4 روز
great speaker, seems like a good dude.
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo پیش 4 روز
Hi Erik, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please spread the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with theirselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo
Sreekala Vijayarudran
Sreekala Vijayarudran پیش 4 روز
I heard it on loop twice just to soak this wisdom .. I so need to get this right , Thanku 😇😇
Mariska D
Mariska D پیش 4 روز
Thank you. Everyone needs this knowledge.
من الصفر
من الصفر پیش 4 روز
Great Talk
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo پیش 4 روز
Thank you for watching my talk and thanks for your kind response. Good luck applying the insights and tips.
coktail mazaltov
coktail mazaltov پیش 4 روز
Is there anybody in the comments to confirm (with a link possibly) the fact about the 50k thought and the 10k neg. Tought? Thanks
Caleb The Ragdoll
Caleb The Ragdoll پیش 4 روز
The ending argument got me.
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo پیش 4 روز
Thank you for watching my talk and thanks for your kind response. Good luck applying the insights and tips.
Nor Al
Nor Al پیش 4 روز
مر من هنا من صلى على رسول الله
Saiki Kusuo
Saiki Kusuo پیش 4 روز
I watch this video when i take something personally.
Saiki Kusuo
Saiki Kusuo پیش 4 روز
@Frederik Imbo Thank you too. I'll do my best.
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo پیش 4 روز
Hi Saiki, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please spread the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with theirselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo
GUSSTASS
GUSSTASS پیش 4 روز
The reality is that this world is developing a non respectful part in conversation,relationship,discussion,amorosity,empathy,consideration and above all, NO, pro active thinking. Yes, Fredrick's advice is affective and temporary, but at the "end of the day" we all need accollades and love because....we need it to feel worthy/
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo پیش 4 روز
Thank you for your reaction. I think we should all reflect a bit more upon ourselves: are we the best version of ourselves? Is what we do, say, think and do an expression of love?
Blanca Lj
Blanca Lj پیش 4 روز
Being aware of your triggers and wanting to change them is the way to self acceptance
Arianna
Arianna پیش 4 روز
Such a beautiful talks, so inspiring!
maryam neishabouri
maryam neishabouri پیش 5 روز
this was fantastic. I just right at this moment really needed to watch this. thank you Frederik.
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vikram
vikram پیش 5 روز
Awesome
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo پیش 4 روز
Thank you Vikram for watching my talk and thanks for your kind response. Good luck applying the insights and tips.
Damien Ramseur
Damien Ramseur پیش 5 روز
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Bhawna pathania
Bhawna pathania پیش 5 روز
Thanku so much🤗💌
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo پیش 4 روز
Thank you for watching my talk and thanks for your kind response. Good luck applying the insights and tips.
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